you wanna be in the show / c’mon let it go!

That’s right! It’s Friday (the 13th; & also Stevie Wonder’s birthday), and I have a fresh steamed batch of link awesomeness. Pour your favorite beverage and let’s get going!

Ethics and health: Factory farms the only way to ‘feed the world’? Not so, argues Science paper by Tom Philpot

Teen Moms Look for Support, But Find Only Shame by the wonderful Miriam Zoila Pérez at Colorlines:

“Advocates like Bayetti Flores think that focusing narrowly on [teen] preventing pregnancy doesn’t address the root cause of these disparities, many of which exist among communities of similar socioeconomic status regardless of age of parenting. Instead, she argues, it turns a societal issue into an individual problem, where the blame for negative outcomes gets transferred onto the individual girls themselves—most frequently girls of color. Despite the fact that there are more white teen parents than teen parents of color overall, Latinas and African Americans are often the target of prevention programs because of the higher incidence of teen pregnancy and parenting within the communities.”

“That data can be picked apart pretty easily,” says [Verónica Bayetti Flores of the National Latina Institute for Reproductive Health]. “If you look at those negative outcomes in terms of socioeconomic indicators, I think you’d see similar trends. It’s trying to place the blame on something that is more a symptom than a cause.”

And from a year ago: author Hilary Mantel ruffles feathers regarding the same subject (thanks, reader Amy for sending this link on).

And listen: I’m a fair-minded and judicious moderator, methinks. But I was a pregnant teen, and I’ve been thinking about this a lot, and going over bone-deep hurts, and I’d encourage people to read the articles and really consider what kind of statement they want to make – if they make one at all (it’s really okay not to, you know).

Why do Girls Feel More Depressed after First Time Sex? from Rachel Rabbit White. Well one reason is, we usually have some pretty inept lovers and have been entirely too pressured about the whole business. This is a great, thoughtful piece, and I encourage anyone to read it if you plan on further interacting with the human race.

In both the No-Shit-Really? and also the I-Want-To-Cry-Because-The-Status-Quo-Sucks category (in other words, people are now shying away from “dieting” and calling the same behaviors, “lifestyle choices” etc.), we have: Dieting Linked To Eating Disorders at Medical Health News. Thanks reader Jeanne for sharing this through Google Reader.

“Constant dieting in a bid to improve appearance and reach what is perceived as a ‘socially acceptable’ low weight can cause an obsession with weight and an increased likelihood of developing an eating disorder such as anorexia or bulimia. ”


Film: How to Die in Oregon. I will definitely be seeing this. Even watching the brief promo vid brought up a lot of emotions regarding the hospice and dying care of my father, which I was so intimately involved with.

Lovable Local Cop Tells Other Cops How to Be More Lovable at The Stranger (also shared by Jeanne). “It doesn’t matter which population we’re dealing with, it takes multiple contacts to build trust,” Gracy explains. “But every positive encounter helps build our good reputation.”

“Women bare real pregnant and post-pregnancy bellies to show hypocrisy of glossy media images”. No photoshop, surgery, smoke and mirrors, “flattering” lighting, etc. I seriously want to give each of these women a high-five, or a fist-bump, or buy ’em a coffee or tea or margarita. Great project (related:

Local: Child Luring Incident Reported in Aberdeen. Sounds like those two girls handled things well.

Malls Across America; a great slideshow from 1989. Be sure to read the artist’s commentary, too!

Crafters: you can knit “The Dude”, inspired by a new-classic film I can’t get enough of! (and not just because of how many “fuck” words are in it).

Make: I was complimented on my rhubarb pie this week (and ’tis the season!). I followed this recipe.

And finally – this? Is so, incredibly, simply, beautiful.

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friday is for lovers

Friday links! Which I was late getting up, because I was running around on a sunny wild beach and then later, eating things flavored with truffle oil and sage in browned butter (jealous much?). But – here they are. As per usual, if you have lengthy comments please throw ’em up at the source articles, and let me know if you’d like a link back!

“When getting dressed is an issue” at Authentic Parenting. What’s “indecent” about naked kids? Do all countries / people feel the same way? Can we expect their desire for privacy, clothing and body expression, and modesty, is like any other behavior they will grow into on their own time? Or should we police them? How do we honor other people’s preferences in public?

“Blogging Against Disablism Day will be May 1st, 2011” at Diary of a Goldfish (also, reading “The language of disability”, from the same site, is quite instructive).

Toppenish teen fakes pregnancy as school project. Gaby Rodriguez? Is my (s)hero. The more I think about this story the more impressed I am with her (and the other three people privy to the experiment). Just: phenomenal. P.S. trigger warning on comments for racism/misogyny/ageism etc. etc.

“I Have This. I Don’t Know What To Do.” at Teacher Tom. This article makes me giggle for a few reasons. First, it must be said: it is downright progressive compared to many people’s concepts about teaching, learning, and education. I commend the piece for that. But it is still rather top-down and condescending, and, in a larger sense, it is sad (for everyone) when a grownup believes what they have to offer is teaching by “playing dumb”, rather than inhabiting a space of mindfulness and advocacy. It is nothing new to hear that children enjoy learning the way we humans are likely wired to learn – and regardless of whether we are or not, respond best to: that is, with freedom and according to our own intrinsic interests. And I laugh that the scientific establishment must publish sciencey white papers (and they often are very white. and male.) for such a system to get a nod from self-styled Powers That Be. Meanwhile those (especially ladies) that write about this and live their lives with children this way, are often painted as frowsy hippie space-cases.

Right-Sizing Women at The Global Sociology Blog; h/t friend and reader Jeanne for this one. Wow, has it really taken this long for the USian military to begin taking seriously that soldiers can come in different body configurations? And this, regarding civilian clothing: “Women are cramming themselves into inaccurate sizes, cut to fit only one type of body – and they’re feeling bad about it. It’s amazing that fashion retailers, who go as far as scenting the air in their stores, fail to cater to this most basic aspect of the clothing experience.”

Things I would like to say to some (privileged, whiny) people by Angry Black Woman. Good points.

School Gardens: Rejected for Ridiculous Reasons by Urban Organic Gardener. He writes great stuff!

In Anchors Away Rachel Maddow delivers a quick note regarding an interview in The Guardian. Spoken well and succinctly. If you’re gay, do you have a responsibility to come out? Is it OK to out other people? Are there circumstances in which we should?

“Secretary’s Day” and Social Control at Sociological Images. Here’s my comment.

In the End: 10 Things Not to Do in a Loved One’s Last Hours by Marguerite Manteau-Rao. This is an excellent list regarding hospice experience and palliative care. I am reminded of the intense privilege I had in nursing my father during his last days. I think like homebirth, death at home is powerfully nuanced and I am so grateful I got to experience it.

Finally, a little levity. We have about twelve things wrong with our house and our landlord doesn’t see fit to fix ’em. So this gave me a laugh:

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